Week 5 Dating and Relationships POSTING (1)

nullnullWikepedia: “…a form of courtship, and may include any social activity undertaken by, typically, two persons with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. The word refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity. Traditional dating activities include entertainment or a meal.” Dictonary.com a social appointment, engagement, or occasion arranged beforehand with another person: to go out on a date on Saturday night. What is “dating”?nullVarious definitions of Dating “If I say I have a date, I mean I have an appointment with someone with the possibility of romance or intimacy. It might not happen, but we're both single and available. If I say I am dating someone, I mean I have had more than one date, and I am interested in continuing to date that person. It does not necessarily mean I am seeing that person exclusively. If I say I am seeing someone, I mean I am dating that person exclusively. Neither terms dating or seeing do I use to mean intimacy. I consider that a private matter between me and the person I’ with." nullHow do you let someone know you are interested in them? What do you after they know you are interested? Does a man pay for everything on a date? After the first date, when does the man call her back? You think you had a great first date, you call her and….null“My aunt went to a speed dating convention. “ What is speed dating? It's an organized system where single women and men can speak to each other in five- or ten-minute intervals, so they can meet a lot of potential dates at once. SPEED DATING: an event at which each participant converses individually with all the prospective partners for a few minutes in order to select those with whom dates are desirednull1) What do you do for work? - It is an introductory question. It may reveal the professional status of a person but little about his personality. So move on to another question. 2) Where are you from? - This reveals background. It throws better light on the person. 3) What is the one thing about yourself that you would like me to know? More insight into personality. 4) When was your last relationship and how long did it last? A probing question that will open up the communication. 5) What are you looking for in a relationship? You can both instantly compare whether you match in this area. 6) What do you think is the most important value in a relationship? 7 ) Do you want to marry or have you ever been married? This is important, as it will reveal if both are moving in the same direction - towards or away from marriage. 8) What do you look for in a husband/wife? Try to elicit an honest answer.nullMy co-worker is setting me up on a blind date. I've never met the boy before. What is a blind Date? A "blind date" is a date between two people who have not previously met. nullIn the United States, relationships between members of the opposite sex are generally less structured than in other countries. "Platonic" relationships (non- romantic friendships between members of the opposite sex) are very common and virtually everyone has platonic friends of the opposite sex. Romantic Relationships & Dating nullWhen you meet someone who interests you, it is wise to get to know the person before pursuing a romantic relationship. You need to let the person know that you are interested in them, but you should not just blurt out, "Wow, you’re really hot! Wanna go out ?” The process of communicating interest without being blunt is called "flirting." nullThe Rules of Engagement: Dating in America Tradition Still Applies - Men, women still expect you to make the first move and ask a lady out, and although 41% of women would offer to pick up the check on a first date, a majority of men (37%) still feel they should foot the bill. Bailout Plan – Both men and women agree that 15 minutes into the date is long enough to tell if there is chemistry (31%). However, if the date isn’t going as planned, only 12% of singles would actually call it a night and leave within the first 30 minutes of the date. nullMake Eye Contact If you don't make eye contact, you'll look bored or uninterested, and that's not an impression you want to give. Too shy to look them right in the eyes? Here's a trick: look at the spot right between their eyes. It'll look like eye contact to them. Come Up With a Compliment Pick one thing you like about the way they look - like their hair, their smile or an article of clothing. Let them know in a friendly way how much you like it. It'll make them feel good and will open them up to you. (If you can't think of an opening line for tip #2, a compliment will do.)nullSmile You don't have to go all Bozo the Clown, but the idea is to look like you enjoy talking to them. So be sure to throw them a smile whenever it makes sense. If they shoot one back, you'll know that they like talking to you, too. Flirt With Your Body The body language you use when you flirt is just as important as what you say. Use good posture, point your body towards the person and try to find excuses to touch them. For more on how to do that, check these body language flirting tips.null Keep It Light You'll get a way better response if you chat about fun, happy stuff (like your new puppy) than serious or sad stuff (like when your puppy got hit by a train). The point of flirting isn't to bare your soul or share your honest opinions about everything. It's to open the door to lots more conversations down the road. Beware of Awkward Silences Once the convo drags, it's probably gone for good. Fill an awkward silence by asking the other person a question. Can't think of one? Ask them about something they're wearing or something in your environment (like a painting on the wall, or the music that's playing).nullTo Friend or Not to Friend? – Younger singles (ages 21-34) think it’s OK to add a date as a Facebook friend after 2-3 dates (26%), while 11% of singles between the ages of 35-44 wait to friend a date on Facebook until it becomes an exclusive relationship. Meet the Guys – Yes, it is OK to introduce your new romantic interest to the ones who know you best. Men are more likely to introduce someone they’re interested in to their friends within the first month of dating than women are, regardless of their age group (nearly 50% of men vs. 35% of women).http://blog.match.com/2011/03/28/dating-in-america/nullToo Fast on a First Date? – Only 6.5% of singles claim they have frequently had sex on the first date, while 80% of singles disapprove of ending the date between the sheets. Making the Call – 48% of women prefer men to make the follow-up call after the first date. A majority of men (68%) will pick up the phone between one to three days after the date, while 6% of men can’t resist following up within the first 24 hours.nullindividualist collective stereotype gesture distance small talk   stereotype: a conception or image invested with special meaning and held in common by members of a group collective:of or characteristic of a group of individuals taken together Distance: the state or fact of being apart in space, as of one thing from another remoteness. small talk :light conversation for social occasions. Casual or trivial conversation individualist :a person who shows great independence or individuality in thought or action Gesture: a movement or position of the hand, arm, body, head, or face that is expressive of an idea, opinion, emotion, etcnullMost people do not talk about religion, politics, or personal feelings with strangers. We leave home at 18-21 years of age years of age. "See you later," or "See you soon," are ways of making an appointment. When meeting someone for the first time, it is customary to shake hands, both for men and for women. Most women in America who are close friends hold hands and kiss sometimes. For a casual dinner invitation, do not arrive more than 10 minutes early. Business cards are normally exchanged upon meeting. A "blind date" is a date between two people who have not previously met. Platonic" relationships (non- romantic friendships between members of the opposite sex) are very common. A man pays for everything on a first date.  True or False nullREADING: Read the pdf file: Saturday morning cartoons : Review “Week 5 Dating and Relationships” TOTAL AMERICAN IDIOMS: Pages 37- 48