夫妻相处八大忌

夫妻之间一辈子不吵架恐怕是极少数，常言说得好：客客气气是朋友，聊聊我我是情人，吵吵闹闹是夫妻，老夫老妻都有这个体会。但是要做到不破坏夫妻感情，不妨碍家庭生活，夫妻吵架应有八忌： HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank"       一忌不计轻重：为鸡毛蒜皮的事也寸步不让，大吵大闹。结果这也吵，那也吵，吵一次伤害一次感情，因小失大，是夫妻关系存在的基础逐步消失，夫妻之间应该是小事上要宽容，大事上多协商，尽量避免矛盾发生。 HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank"          二忌改造对方：把对方按在自己的摸子里进行雕刻，事事要按我的想法办，不合我意，就不依不饶，争吵不休。事实证明老夫老妻性格、生活习惯都已定型，改也难，夫妻之间都应允许对方保持自己的特点和个性，并虚心学习对方的长处，在取长补短中达到协调一致。 HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank"      三忌清算历史：每吵一次架都把对方以往的“过错”历数一遍，用以证明自己的正确，对方的错误。这样不但不利于当前问题的解决，还会给对方留下“你早就不信任我，不喜欢我了”的印象。有百害而无一利。 HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank"      四忌把话说绝不留余地：“我早就看透你了，你要能改，我就不姓***了”。这不但不利于对方改正错误，也不利于矛盾缓和，还会把自己置于被动的地位。 HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank"      五忌株连家人：有的夫妻吵架，把对方的父母、兄弟、姐妹都卷进去，这样容易伤亲情，更容易使矛盾复杂化。 HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank"      六忌以性生活惩罚对方：有的夫妻吵架后，在性生活上就不配合了，甚至拒之门外，这不但伤了对方的自尊，还会伤夫妻感情的基础。 HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank"     七忌动用武力动手打人：夫妻吵架多为家庭琐事，要“君子动口不动手”，动子以情、晓之以理、分清是非、弄清原因解决问题。即使大是大非，武力也难以奏效。动手打人既伤皮肉又伤感情，还增加了解决问题的难度。 HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank"     八忌轻言离婚：一有矛盾发生就把离婚挂嘴上，这不但会让人感受以离婚相威胁，还会给对方留下绝情印象。长此以往，最终会把婚姻引向破裂。 HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank" HYPERLINK "http://bbs.9degree.com/UploadFace/107680_2006111122263089095.gif" \t "_blank"      最后奉劝所有的朋友，夫妻之间尽量不要吵架，夫妻吵架赢了道理输了感情谁也输不起，所以无论发生任何矛盾都要保持一颗宽容之心