要乐于从朋友和家人那里学习

Learn from the people closest to us 发布时间：2012-12-18 文章出自：译言 原文链接：点击查看 One of the saddest observations I've made centers around how reluctant many of us are to learn from the people closest to us our parents) spouses, children, and friends. Rather than being open to learning, we close ourselves off out of embarrassment, fear, stubbornness, or pride. It's almost as if we say to ourselves, "I have already learned all that I can [or want to learn] from this person; there is nothing else I can [or need to] learn. It's sad, because often the people closest to us know us the best. They are sometimes able to see ways in which we are acting in a self-defeating manner and can offer very simple solutions. If we are too proud, or stubborn to learn, we lose out on some wonderful, simple ways to improve our lives. I have tried to remain open to the suggestions of my friends and family. In fact, I have gone so far as to ask certain members of my family and a few of my friends, "What are some of my blind spots?" Not only does this make the person you are asking feel wanted and special, but you end up getting some terrific advice. It's such a simple shortcut for growth, yet almost no one uses it. All it takes is a little courage and humility, and the ability to let go of your ego. This is especially true if you are in the habit of ignoring suggestions, taking them as criticism, or tuning out certain members of your family. Imagine how shocked they will be when you ask them, sincerely, for their advice. Pick something that you feel the person whom you are asking is qualified to answer. For example, I often ask my father for advice on business. Even if he happens to give me a bit of a lecture, it's well worth it. The advice he gives usually prevents me from having to learn something the hard way. 内容合作： 查看更多译文» © 2012 网易公司 京ICP证080268号 要乐于从朋友和家人那里学习 发布时间：2012-12-18 文章出自：译言 原文链接：点击查看 我所做过的调查中最悲哀的就是我们当中的许多人不愿从自己最亲近的人身上去学习，这包括父母、配偶、孩子和朋友。我们把自己封闭起来由于尴尬、恐惧、固执或是自傲，而不是坦然学习。这近似于我们给自己说：“从他们身上我早已经学到了我能学的或是我想学的；现在也没什么能学和可学的了。” 这真是悲哀，因为只有我们最亲近的人才最了解我们。在一些我们会弄巧成拙的事儿上，他们有时反倒能看出点儿门道来，给我们提供最简单的解决之道。若过于自我、固执，不愿去学习，我们反而会错失一些不错而又简单的法子，它们能够改善我们生活。 我一直努力直言不讳的面对我的家人和朋友。事实上，我甚至问过我的家人和几个朋友，“我的一些盲点是什么？”这不仅使你问的人感到新奇和想回答，而且你自己最终也会得到一些很棒的建议。这是一种简单快捷的成长方式，可很少有人去尝试。因为这需要一些勇气、一些虚心，需要能够放开你自我的情结。如果你有忽视别人建议的习惯，而且理所当然的把它们当作嘲讽，或者回绝家人的建议，这就对上号了 ! 想像一下，当你真诚的询问他们建议时他们该有多惊讶啊！找几个你觉得够格的人来做答吧！比如我会经常找我老爸问生意上的事。即使他会冷不丁的给我上一课，那我也觉得很值。通常他所给我的建议阻止了我以最笨的去学习。 内容合作： 查看更多译文» © 2012 网易公司 京ICP证080268号