怎样安慰 心情不好的 朋友（How to comfort a friend who is in bad mood）

怎样安慰 心情不好的 朋友（How to comfort a friend who is in bad mood） 怎样安慰 心情不好的 朋友(How to comfort a friend who is in bad mood) I have been troubled, I do not know how to comfort my friends Every time this time, I feel good, useless No experience at all. There are so many things that will be messed up by you I should study too much So I found something to comfort my friends Let's have a look Sad to accompany her, when she's happy when she listened to her, looking at her, when she was angry with her. When people... When you need to comfort, is certainly the lost time, some people need to find a can give their own ideas, some people need to find a listen to yourself depressed, some people do not need to say a word, just stay quiet with good... We need to know what a bad mood because he is such an antidote against the disease and secondly to know ` ` he is what kind of person is not suitable for him when a bad mood to comfort yourself calm because some people will be good people like you to restore comfort is equal to self defeating the rest depends on your ` ` ` ` ` more eloquence say something nice to transfer his attention What are needless to say, this time to say more is to listen, and sometimes anti Seoul will come back, only let her vent, you can take her out to play, or go shopping, a stress relieving method: eat home after the first 5 minutes to roar in the heart to vent grievances out; be sitting quietly on the couch listening to light music for 15 minutes, after which you will feel much more comfortable. Or you can confide in your family or a good friend, and you can get relief. If he is to speak that you sat next to listen carefully to listen to him is the best way to let his heart out to say he can say better if he doesn't talk that you find some jokes to him anyway, communication is the best way and his talk is best to let he put the heart say loneliness is a kind of feeling, but for a long time the loneliness always melancholy and individuals have become more sensitive, it is not easy to happy, really hope you can be happy, because we also have experienced failure. Sad, I hope you don't always live in their own world, not don't hide in there, to face the reality, to feel every one of your love, even if this love is not worth mentioning, is extremely small and don't believe anyone, at the same time to ask others whether you love Think of whether you give love to others? It's selfish if you just want someone else's love and you don't give it to yourself. He went out with your heart not to say what accompanied him as a friend, you have to learn to listen. When your friends encounter setbacks, meet trouble, he would object to find a vent and you as a friend, be sincere, patience to listen to each other's friends opened an emotional outlet. To tell you the friend in the process, you not only listen, but from time to time to insert the one or two sentence emotional comforting words, or for friends out of ideas about how the feelings of friends will be due to scale and step out of the swamp, he will feel a friend like you is really rely on. In this way, a friend's feelings will deepen and friendship will grow with each passing day. 10 principles of therapeutic dialogue: 1. listen and listen, not to be silent, but to listen carefully to what the other person has said, what he has said, and what it really means. Listening does not mean talking or asking questions; usually we are eager to share our stories, or ask each other questions, and think that is to listen to the gestures. However, the so-called listening should be using our eyes, ears and heart to hear each other's voice, but not anxious to immediately know the antecedents and consequences. We must be willing to put aside our own "inner dialogue" for a while. The so-called "inner dialogue" refers to the unconscious conversation in the mind while listening, including thinking about what to say, how to respond to each other's words, or figuring out the next topic. 2. pause between conversations, and sometimes speak, and sometimes listen. When you hear your heart ring out, "I don't understand."...... When the voice is, it is a short pause to ask, "did I miss something?" "We must also remind ourselves that slow down the mechanical response, not consciously produced for example, want to quickly solve the other discomfort, so there is no positive thinking, will jump directly to the action stage, say or do we think of other useful things. Pause and think calmly, let us stop judging, stop responding, and generate curiosity. Thus, it helps to exert empathy in the important moment, and if we do not do such a pause, we may say in a moment what will be done later. Pause is like driving, using the clutch needed to change gear: down to a certain extent, after deducting the gear, in order to accelerate. The art of comfort consists in saying the right thing at the right time, and saying "not to speak on impulse". 3. when a friend is not a hero, helping others through difficult times does not equate to saving them from a painful situation. People have the right and the responsibility to accept the consequences of their actions and the dilemmas they bring. We should identify with their pain, let them feel the pain, and do not try to disperse the pain quickly. We're just trying to bridge them over the river of fear. When friends and family are in emotional or physical pain, the most basic way to support them is to allow them to cry. The most natural reaction to a crying person is to ask the other person to stop crying and say, "don't cry, things can be settled safely."! In fact, this is not the most appropriate response. When the other weeping or tears, we tend to own helpless and felt uneasy. However, the body will try to cry is a form of emotional toxins, and tears is a process of healing. So, please don't worry about taking the tissue to each other, just let him know that you support him. 4. giving comfort and comfort is not telling people: "you should think..." or "you shouldn't feel like...". People have the right to keep their true feelings. Comfort is not to judge them, do not think that they are suffering, need to accept help; comfort is to give them the space to do their own, and identify with their feelings. We do not need to express concern by agreeing or opposing their choices or dealing with dilemmas. 5. empathy, when we are busy trying to help others, we may forget that people will notice our inner thoughts - the thoughts and feelings that are not expressed. Although people are not sure what we think, they are often aware of whether we panic, judge them, or feel bad about them. Comforting people in the face is really associated with the real state of our hearts. Because of their experience, we share not only the pain of each other, but also the suffering of our hearts. No matter what the situation is, a well intentioned presence and comfort is a gift to each other. 6. long term changes can bring about a lot of confusion. No one can quickly sort out that mess. People need time to adjust, review, change, and ask, "what if...?" "The question. In the therapeutic dialogue, we learn to accept the fact that our family members, colleagues, or neighbors sometimes just need us to be their "echo box" and be able to use it repeatedly. 7. be brave enough to feel embarrassed about what you should say, no matter what the situation is. It's OK to let those who want to help know how we feel. I can even honestly say, "I don't know how you feel, I don't know what I should say, but I do care about you.". Even if you feel funny about the expression, you can let the other person know that you are not in a hurry to talk to him right now. You may choose to express feelings and thoughts in writing. In addition to verbal expressions, there are many different forms of therapeutic dialogue. 8. provide practical resources without having to find answers to all questions, but try to provide the resources available to other friends, experts, and friends to help them find the answer. You can call each other, keep in touch with each other, find books to read to them, or simply provide a shelter for them to find their answers calmly. 9. put yourself in your shoes and ask for help when we ask, "is there anything I can help you with?" "Sometimes there are answers, and sometimes they don't know what kind of help they need.". However, people sometimes have trouble opening their real needs. Putting yourself in the act of thinking about the assistance that people might need is the first step to effective help. 10., using empathy, even if we experience similar experience, can not one hundred percent understand the feelings of others, but we can make good use of empathy to care for each other. Remember to patiently listen to other people's stories, and then consider whether it is necessary to share your own story Is the result of sharing beneficial to each other?