距离是否是爱情的障碍

Whether the distance is the barrier for love Good evening everyone! Today we are here to debate the topic—whether the distance is the barrier for love. The distance here means a kind of gap among people, which comes from their inner spirits, time, space and recognition. Love is a sort of end-result of emotion between men and women, which is based on their social background and mutual idea of life. Normally, it’s formed by the affection from one’s heart as well as a strong and unique feeling to make the other his or her life-long partner. As to the obstacle, it is a visual metaphor to explain something that get in the way and then prevent your moving ahead. Consequently, some hold that the factors which influence the advance of love are distance while others not. Here, I announce that our debate starts. Now it is time for major debaters in both sides to throw light upon their perspectives within 3 minutes. Supportive side: Major Debater: Well, To begin with, I’d like to introduce myself briefly. I’m***,a girl/boy who is studying *** in Hainan University. First of all, The viewpoint I hold is that love needs objective material conditions，love requires material base, love exists not as a illusory stuff, but as a kind of true feeling. Undoubtedly, the distance is the barrier to love. Since you can not reach your beloved, how dare you say that you can give the other the life he or she wants? Second, I’m going to discourse the concept that distance is something obvious. Because of its existence, it will have a bad effect on the material base of love, which will further influence the stability of love. Therefore, true love must be established on the basis of being together. Otherwise, nothing can be achieved without the foundation of close quarters. Third, what I want to emphasize is that the distance is indeed the obstacle of love, but it’s not a sole wall that you can’t break up. What’s more! Whether these obstacles can be transformed into stepping-stones depends on the lovers’ coordinateness. Host: Well, the supporters have stated their arguments just now. They demonstrated their points precisely and completely, didn’t they? Now, let’s listen to the voice from the opposite side. Opposite side: Major Debater: Hello everyone! My name is ***. Here I will show you my opinions on that the distance is not the obstacles for love. First, as far as I’m concerned, there is an old saying which goes “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”, if there isn’t a former example, how does this proverb come out? Meanwhile, it is the distance that promotes the two persons’ affective communication. As a result, there is not the kind of claim that the distance is the barrier for love. Second, have you ever heard about an idiom which reads the distance produces beauty? And, the beauty here contains a lot which also refers to the romantic love. For this reason, there is no doubt that such distance-is-the-obstacle-for-love statement is totally wrong! Third, with the development of our society and the improvement of people’s living standard, we are exposed to a wide variety of modern technology, which not only can make our communication more convenient, but also close the distance between the lovers. Take the Internet for example, nowadays; more and more people tend to have web camera conversations through Tecent QQ, and these lovers are accustomed to telephoning to each other for a long time every day to ensure they can keep in touch with the other one. Host: Now, both sides have shown their attitude towards this topic, and here comes our question and answer session: the supportive side gives a question to the opposite side. Then, the opposite side should reply to the question and debate against them within the time allowed. 正方：There is a common phenomenon that the divorce rate of couples apart is much higher than normal ones. How can you explain this? 反方：Can you give us some explicit statistics? According to my data, there exist many factors; the couples apart only take account 15% of it. Namely, one swallow does not make a summer. 反方：Don’t you think there is no barrier in true love? If you say the distance is the barrier for love, I doubt whether it is called the love! 正方：I think you are asking me what the meaning of love is, well, I have to admit that love is abstract stuff , on the part of me, love can forever link the hearts of lovers however long the two keeps, then, all of this are based on the two persons’ management. How can they make it if they are not together? The love which loses its spirit is just a kind of imagination. Not being together, they can not even have any chummy actions such as hugging and kissing like others, much less can they go through the ups and downs happened in their daily life. 正方:It has been said that lovers in the campus would break up after their graduation. So, don’t you think it is the distance that consists of the most vital factor in their separateness? 反方：As is known to us all, the campus love begins without any purpose and they are too young to understand the burden they need to bear, while they are grown up, they become earthbound and realistic. They may break up to find a better guy who has a grand background. Or they may be weary after such a long time of being together. Therefore, you can not define that they split just because of the distance while their directions are different and they won’t go to the same city to make a living. 反方：How can you understand the sentence that “If love between both sides can last for aye, why needs they stay together night and day”(两情若是长久时，又岂在朝朝暮暮)? 正方：If they can stay together night and day, why don’t they stay night and day? Lovers who are separated by distance will chose to be together in the end. That’s to say, the poet is in favor of our points! Host：Ok, time is up. After an exciting question and answer session, we are about to enter the last session—our free debating time! Each side has 4 minutes to give an additional statement about the question and phenomenon pointed out just now. Before we start the last session, let’s hear of the audience’s views. <……………………………………………………………………….> What a sensible opinion! Well, time is limited; let’s go on our debate given from both sides. 正：You just say that “A fence between makes love more keen. ”But, all of us know that the couple feel happy because they meet each other again after they’ve been separated for a long time. It is not the distance made them happy. 反：You may say love is produced by people's spirits not the realistic materials, on the contrary, the farther a couple stays, the more they may miss the other. Therefore, the distance acts as a promoter instead of a useless one. 正：Could you explain why love at distance won’t last longer than normal one? 反：How can you know this? Well, I can tell you an example that my best friend and her beloved are in this condition, but they get along well with each other during his absence abroad. There are lots of things they can do together such as sending e-mails, seeing the other on the Internet, they basically tail off with something like a goodbye kiss, and they eventually find a way to solve things. Now, I want to make a conclusion to the topic we discuss today. True love, which has been referred to in their debate, is something that can be tested by time and distance. Whether the distance is the barrier for love is determined by people. And the results vary from person to person. Once the couple can go through this hardship, they will receive their marvelous future.