刘墉「世说心语」032-处世篇32-言为心声（Liu Yong said 032- 32- in the heart）

刘墉「世说心语」032-处世篇32-言为心声（Liu Yong said 032- 32- in the heart） 刘墉「世说心语」032-处世篇32-言为心声(Liu Yong said 032- 32- in the heart) A recent Taiwan / Gulf officials said something wrong. The thing is, the Taiwan stock market crash, a reporter asked an official, the government did not rescue the stock options. The official answer very simply: "no prescription! " Reporter: "write down her words so officials say Taiwan stock market hasn't healed. " You're right～ The reporter is exaggerated. But if the officials should not be so simple, but speak a bit more complete, said: "of course there are drugs to save, but this will take time to solve economic problems, no medicine, instant. " The feeling is not good enough? In fact, each of us who have simplified the phenomenon. For example, my friend one day, his wife face said: "your skin is so tender and nice! " The lady happily replied: "yes! Each recently touched people say so. " On the spot of her husband on fire, shouted: "recently? Everyone? There are a few people touch you? " Lady crying, said: "I said recently in the beauty salon, I care for each miss said so. " My wife talk is simplified. One day I complain about oil rose too fierce, all the days are not any more. She smiled and said: "yes ah! I thank god! " I said, "you also thank God for oil prices? You have no conscience! " She said: "what you hear me out! I thank God, I am now retired at home, unlike the previous drive to work every day, so many use less gasoline. " Even my dead mother, also have this problem. For example, one day she said, "thank God, mom is sick. " I said, "your friend is sick, you also thank God? " My mother said: "I am ten years old my mother said Li than small, also the old sick, but my body is very good, this don't thank God? " I said so many jokes today to talk about the art of speaking. Many people are talking, you can listen to people talk rapidly off the reel, but can not enter, or even do not understand what he has to say. This may have several reasons: First, because the "speaker" feeling is not equal to the "listener" feeling, so you can not enter his status. The most common example is that there are people joke, did not say before, or say a few words, he has to smile zhibuqiyao. Laughing, he said, you saw him smile, but did not hear a few words, of course not amused. Knowing this, even if one thing you have been told hundreds of times, when you first time to listen to others speak, you absolutely have to put emotion into it, if you say it is the first time. New York Broadway, a famous actor once said: as a stage actor is the most difficult, even if you have played thousands of games, even if you get sick, bad mood, lovelorn, on the stage, you have to immediately become the characters. Even if the audience is only one of the audience, you have one hundred percent, hard to perform. The problem is, most people do not, so you see the waiter, salesman, even the teacher make mistakes like this. Especially the phone, when you pick up the phone, only to hear a person in the endorsement, even you who do not have to ask, that is to sell, how can his effect is good? There is also a restaurant waiter, you often ask him what food, or what he is like dessert, like a bunch of Chaodou newspaper, but you also didn't hear clearly. As a teacher, he may be a person to teach ten classes, each class to teach the same thing, stereotyped, plus fatigue, unless there is enthusiasm also tend to be tireless in teaching others, "teacher". By the way～ The most obvious is the tour guide, he always take the same route, say the same words, same trick, the same local customs and practices. Good guide literally every day to enter the situation, made everyone think he is full of passion. The tour guide is a hypnotist, to echo what the books say, a tour bus people rush asleep. So if you find yourself talking to a good review lack of charm. Is because you are too familiar with their own things that have no feeling? Or speak too fast, so that others can not digest? Or is your heart timid, want to say, did not say, the results of course not moving into automatic speaking, momentum and strength. You're right～ You need to have momentum and strength. If you are a singer, an actor, that is your "stage" and "Charisma" charm. I used to when the television reporter, while running entertainment news. Often see a shrink small shadow in the background, to hold her hand, Bing Bing cool, well still trembling. But mercury lamp shines, the little shadow suddenly enlarged, become a radiant star. Almost every star, have this ability. It is in the audience, to store their own power, since it unreservedly put out. By the way～ I found a lot of people who engage in direct marketing, introduced their own products, like all of a sudden in high spirit. I was puzzled, then go to visit their sales meeting. It was found that tens of thousands of people, wherever he goes, one by one member, to witness, said his past how poor, even three meals everyday, since the use of this product, health and economic are improved at once, and now open cars, buy a house, just a feeling of rebirth, here is a piece of cheers. I find that the party should have the feeling of religious assembly. When a sales person to have faith in their own products, of course, when introducing more investment. I encourage you to not engage in direct marketing, just want to emphasize: do you want to speak with strength, moving, you have to believe that you said content. Then, you have said and told myself, I am familiar with, others may be unfamiliar, although I said one hundred times, he is the first to listen, I'll take the first way, said complete words. And looked at each other's eyes, he is determined to understand, and then continue to. A famous writer said: "in the move before others, to myself. " Don't talk too?